2018: Week 8 ~ 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: Heirloom

I’m looking forward to starting another year-long of 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks with AmyJohnson Crow.  If you’ve never joined into this type of a weekly writing blog, check out her 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks site for more information. I first joined in 2014, opening my first blog and proud to say… I completed all 52 weeks on time! My 2014: 52 Week Ancestor Challenge can be found on the previous link.

Week 8 ~ Heirloom

I have several “heirlooms” I’ve inherited from my grandparents, and have written on them the past few years and can be found here on my blog… Friday Night Family Heirlooms.

Let’s take a walk through a few family treasures of Steve’s family that are shared amongst the family.

Uncle Frankie brought out one day a few treasured heirlooms from his father’s “barbering” days. If only those tools could talk… what barbershop tales they’d tell. But most stories told in Grandpa Joe’s barber chair, stayed in the barber chair!

joe cambino barber chair

Steve has many memories of this chair, but it was mostly used for napping once he bought a new chair. Grandpa Joe cut almost all the boys hair in the family and Steve went there for his weekly haircuts… dreading it! It wasn’t where he wanted to spend his afternoon… sitting in the chair, while cigarette smoke swirled around as grandpa cut his hair. If he wasn’t keeping still enough, grandpa quickly grabbed his head to place it where he wanted… and you didn’t dare move or else you’d be yelled at… and your mother would be told that you didn’t behave.

My husband rescued grandpa Joe’s prized radio from a basement cleanup one summer Saturday afternoon as a younger cousin living there was having a tag sale. It was a radio he so remembers as a young boy, sitting on the shelf in grandpa’s barber shop… always playing as he arrived for his haircut; a haircut he always dreaded. (He was reading Click or possibility Clip magazine)

radio

Here is that same radio… and it once sat in the kitchen on the farm!

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Grandma Minnie had several dresses, thanks to the sewing ability of her daughter Nancy; I’m told grandma loved polka dots, which is somewhat funny when you associate her name, Grandma Minnie, with Minnie Mouse… who also loved polka dots! At one point, Nancy made a small lap quilt from remnants of all those dresses… it’s preserved in the home of Grandma’s daughter Dolly.

grandma minnies quilt

I’m sure many will remember some of Grandma Minnie’s dresses!

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Steve remembers Grandpa Joe (Cambino) smoking a pipe and the proof is that we have his pipe rack; another item Steve rescued from his grandmother’s cellar. At the time he took it, he had just begun smoking a pipe… not quite sure how that came about or why anyone would want to, but he enjoyed smoking it and had several fancy pipes.

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Grandpa Joe’s Pipe Rack

I hope you’ve enjoyed remembering a few of the family heirlooms!

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The February Prompts
The prompts for February are:
Week 6 (February 5-11): Favorite Name
Week 7 (February 12-18): Valentine
Week 8 (February 19-25): Heirloom
Week 9 (February 26-March 4): Where There’s a Will

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2018: Week 7 ~ 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: Valentine

I’m looking forward to starting another year-long of 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks with AmyJohnson Crow.  If you’ve never joined into this type of a weekly writing blog, check out her 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks site for more information. I first joined in 2014, opening my first blog and proud to say… I completed all 52 weeks on time! My 2014: 52 Week Ancestor Challenge can be found on the previous link.

Week 7 ~ Valentine

candy box

candy heart

A Valentine box and cards I saved! They don’t come in boxes anymore.

I found the “Valentine” prompt puzzling, as… what do I write about, but like all things… something comes along to jog you into the writing! Hubby brought up a raggedy plastic bag full of cards and letters he found in the cedar chest downstairs; he’s presently restoring the chest and that bag was among the things he pulled out. For a week, that bag sat on the floor in the living room… me ignoring it! Finally one night I picked it up, to finally go through and was surprised at my findings.

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“Our Letters”

My “Valentine” of almost 47 years, as of May 3rd… wrote many of those letters to me… first as a guy I’d known for only a few months, then a man I was going to marry and finally as my husband stationed in Thailand. It’s funny to look back at all the letters he wrote… when today the only thing he writes by hand is a grocery list… although he will peck away for a political post on Facebook! I’m the writer… he’s not much of a reader either!

I could have sat all night reading through those letters, but I only opened a few and laughed at my writings to him… how different they were from before and after we married. So mushy and lovey-dovey… surely one day my granddaughters will ooh and ahh over them or laugh hysterically at how mushy their grandparents were! Yes, girls… one time we were young!

Most of the cards I saved from my “Valentine” doesn’t even have a signature on them… his answer was always, “you know who they’re from, why do I have to sign it!” But there are a few signed “Love Always, Steve.”

To show you how smitten he was with me… when in Maine, he even sealed the envelope with a wax seal of “Love” on the envelopes. When I think back now, I have a hard time envisioning him shopping for that stamp and wax… and I so wish I could have a vision of him melting the wax and sealing those envelopes!

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A couple of the envelopes still have the wax stamp intact on them, but most have deteriorated over the years and crumbled off.

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My other Valentine memory is my daughter’s wedding… she married the man of her dreams on Valentine day… Feb. 14, 2012… making such a beautiful bride! Until she met the man of her dreams… Valentines Day was never her favorite day, but today, it holds a much different meaning.

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Melissa (Insalaco) and Frank Gillon

Valentine Wedding – Feb. 14, 2012

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The February Prompts
The prompts for February are:
Week 6 (February 5-11): Favorite Name
Week 7 (February 12-18): Valentine
Week 8 (February 19-25): Heirloom
Week 9 (February 26-March 4): Where There’s a Will

2018: Week 6 ~ 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: Favorite Name

I’m looking forward to starting another year-long of 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks with AmyJohnson Crow.  If you’ve never joined into this type of a weekly writing blog, check out her 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks site for more information. I first joined in 2014, opening my first blog and proud to say… I completed all 52 weeks on time! My 2014: 52 Week Ancestor Challenge can be found on the previous link.

2018: Week 6 ~ 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks

Favorite Name – Naming Patterns – Nicknames

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In searching for popular names of 1900, it seems my husband’s family was covered in the use of names such as… John, Joseph, Frank, Mary, Fred, Margaret, Rose, Joe, Frank, Catherine, Josephine, Andrew, Michael, Pauline, Johnnie, Stephen, Nancy, Rosie, Jimmie, Nicholas, Steve, Celia, and Cecelia.

Favorite Name:

This weekly prompt was “Favorite Name”, but there were always two that I loved in his family… his grandmothers’ names… Domenica and Giacinta. I hinted a few times of using those names for my grandchildren, but that didn’t get me anywhere!

The name “Domenica” is a Spanish baby name, meaning as born on Sunday, although Grandma Minnie was born on a Tuesday, and named after her father’s mother, Domenica DeCuore; it is also the Italian feminine form of Dominic and an alternate form of the French name Dominique. I never learned her actual name until I began writing and researching the family history… I had only known her as Grandma Minnie… she was Minnie to everyone, although on her marriage certificate, her name was written as Michela.

Italian Naming Patterns

  • A first-born son is named after his paternal grandfather.
  • A second son born is named after his maternal grandfather.
  • A third, born son would be named after his father.
  • The first female is named after her paternal grandmother.
  • The second female is named after her maternal grandmother.
  • The third female is named after her mother.

Subsequent children born into the family were usually named after favorite aunts and uncles, or even deceased relatives. You’ll often find a child in the family with a deceased sibling of the same name. In the DeTulio family, there was a daughter, Antoinette, born in 1910, who only lived about six months. In 1911, another daughter was born and Guilia renamed her Antoinette… after the deceased daughter. (I was told this by Mary D. Pompone)

Naming Patterns were a family tradition in most Italian households and in looking through the families of Cambino, DeTulio, and Insalaco… I’ve written who was named for whom!

Giovanni & Guilia DeTulio

Giovanni Americanized into John and Guilia into Julia

DiTullio transformed into DeTullio and later DeTulio

  • Giuseppe DeTulio – named after his paternal grandfather, Giuseppe DiTullio
  • Domenica DeTulio – named after her paternal grandmother, Domenica DeCuore
  • Antoinette DeTulio – b. 1910, d. 1910
  • Antoinette DeTulio – b. 1911, named after her deceased sister.
  • Carmela DeTulio
  • Rosa DeTulio
  • Michael DeTulio
  • Maria DeTulio
  • Nicholas DeTulio
  • Andrew DeTulio
  • Lucia DeTulio – named after her mother’s sister Lucia Catalano
  • Josephine DeTulio

Guilia’s parents were Giovanni and Theresa Catalano, but yet none of the children received those names; I only found two siblings for Guilia… Giovanni Jr., and Lucia. I have no siblings for Giovanni DeTulio, so possibly the rest of the family was named for them.

John and Julia mostly spoke Italian in the home and their children grew up learning both … English at school, and Italian at home. John probably spoke more English in working outside the home, as he needed to be able to communicate with others. From all told to me, Julia spoke mostly Italian, with very few words in English… which made it hard for the great-grandchildren to have conversation with her, but I’m sure she was able to communicate with them by her daughters translating.

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Giuseppe Gambino / Cambino and Domenica DeTulio

Giuseppe became Joseph & Joe – Domenica became Michela & Minnie

Gambino transformed into Cambino

Giuseppe’s siblings were… Francesco, Maria Cristina, Salvatore, and Annunziata,

  • Catherine
  • Frederick Joseph named after his paternal grandfather Federico Gambino
  • Cecelia
  • John – named after his maternal grandfather Giovanni DeTulio
  • Frank named after his paternal uncle Francesco Gambino
  • Nancy named after her paternal aunt, Annunziata (Nunzia) Gambino
  • Antoinete named after her maternal aunt Antoinette DeTulio

Joe and Minnie spoke mostly English in their home… Minnie speaking more Italian as that had been her primary language in her home, but Joe was insistent that his children learn and only speak English. He wanted them to be more American and not associate in the customs and language of Italy. Later in life, his children wished just the opposite… wishing that they had learned Italian in the home and could speak both languages instead of only knowing English.

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Stefano Insalaco and Giacinta DiRosa

Stefano transformed into Stephen and Steve, but I never heard any name for Giacinta other than “Mama.”

  • Louise Rosario Insalaco – named after her paternal grandmother Louisa M. Cacciato
  • Anthony – named after his paternal grandfather Antonio F. Insalaco
  • Stephen Joseph Insalaco – named after his paternal grandfather Stefano Insalaco and also his maternal grandfather Stefano DiRosa
  • Maria A. Insalaco – named after her maternal grandmother Maria Stincone
  • Thomas Insalaco
  • Virginia Rosalie Insalaco
  • Peter Paul Insalaco named after his maternal great-grandfather Pietro Stincone
  • Ruth Insalaco
  • Martha Insalaco

As more second-generation were born in America, the custom of Italian naming patterns soon disappeared as they wanted their children to be more associated with being American and born here. Italian was not usually spoken in the Insalaco household… Giacinta often reverted to speaking more Italian, but was quickly prompted by her daughters to “speak English Mama“. I always enjoyed hearing her speak Italian, but they encouraged her to speak English.

Nicknames:

Cambino: Giuseppe Americanized his name quickly into Joseph and Joe, and later all the children, even Minnie referred to him as “the old man“, but only when he wasn’t around; it’s also said friends referred to him as such too. My husband remembers that when he was young, he’d heard his grandfather called that so often, that he thought it really was his name.

So many Cambino family members ended up with nicknames… “Cecelia” morphed to just Celia, but her brothers preferred to call her “york” or “yawk” and sometimes “yatti”. “Antoinete” became “dolly” because it was said that she didn’t like to play with dolls. Her brother Freddie often teased her by calling her “dreep“. The boys Frank, Fred and John Cambino transformed to Frankie, Johnny, and Freddie. After Johnny began racing at Savin Rock’s, West Haven Speedway, he became known as “King Cambo“, “King” and “Big John.” Later when Johnny Jr. was born, he soon became known as “little Johnny”… who does that anymore to their children? Even as they are all grown now, it’s hard to refrain from saying “little”… when calling them by name.

Daughter, Nancy Cambino never seemed to have had a nickname, but when her niece Nancy Cambino was born, daughter of Johnny and Maggie, the baby quickly became “little Nancy.” It worked the same way with Dolly’s son, Joseph Burgarello… he was called “little Joey“, as his father was known as “Joe, Joey, and Joey Bags“. My husband, Steve Insalaco, was called “beans” or “string bean” by his uncles… why… because he was thin as a bean pole as a young boy; his son followed in that same trait and uncle Frankie often called him “little beans.” If you weren’t named after a family member, you escaped the “little” in your name. My husband called our daughter Melissa, “sunshine“… not quite sure why, but it flowed with her name.

Sister, Catherine, was always Catherine… no nickname, but her husband James Donahue was known as Jimmy and Jim, and Uncle Gee by his nephews and nieces. Sister Nancy married Gennaro Cavallaro, who was known by the American version of Gene. Their son Paul escaped the “little”, as his middle name was Gene, but his son Paul quickly became known as “little Paul”, but he’s outgrown that now as he has a “little Paul” to carry on.
DeTulio: In the DeTulio family, we have Michael DeTulio, who became known as “O’Toole”, Josephine was shortened to “JoJo”, Rosaria DeTulio became Rose, Rosie, and later “Roseburg” or “the bird” because of her married name Burzynski. Antoinette was most often called by her given name but sometimes was called “Antoine”. Antoinette married James Carbone, who was called “Jimmy Brown”… a name given to him as his boxing name; one son Joseph “Johnny” Carbone somehow acquired the nickname of “Johhnycakes”… no one has figured out who nicknamed him or why… might we assume he loved johnnycakes? When Lucy DeTulio married Frank Romano, they became known as “Lulu and Rummy.” I’ve never heard anyone refer to their brother Andrew other than his given name, but just recently a cousin referred to him as Uncle Andy. Their brother Nicholas became Nicky to everyone, Carmela was shortened to Carmel and Mary was always known as Mary, no nickname! What’s most remembered about Mary… is her cooking!

Insalaco: The Insalaco family didn’t seem to have nicknames as the Cambino and DeTulio families had. My father in law, Stephen, was mostly called Steve and later more as Stef. His sister, Maria, was called Mary and his brother Antonio went by Tony.

If I’ve missed any of the family nicknames… please let me know so I might add to the story.

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The prompts for February are:
Week 6 (February 5-11): Favorite Name
Week 7 (February 12-18): Valentine
Week 8 (February 19-25): Heirloom
Week 9 (February 26-March 4): Where There’s a Will

2018: Week 4 ~ 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: In the Census

2018: Week 4 ~ 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks In the Census

I’m looking forward to starting another year-long of 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks with AmyJohnson Crow.  If you’ve never joined into this type of a weekly writing blog, check out her 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks site for more information. I first joined in 2014, opening my first blog and proud to say… I completed all 52 weeks on time! My 2014: 52 Week Ancestor Challenge can be found on the previous link.

Week 5

My husband’s family came here in the early part of the twentieth century as immigrants from Italy. I thought I’d focus on 1930 through the 1940 census to see how they prospered in the beginning of the depression, to the end.

The three family lines that immigrated from Italy to the United States:

  • Stefano Insalaco (Stephen Insalaco) – March 13, 1909 / April 9, 1920
  • Giuseppe Gambino (Joseph Cambino) – May 27, 1913
  • Giovanni DeTullio (John DeTulio) – Aug. 02, 1906 / April 22, 1909 (Giulia Catalano -DeTulio

Giovanni DeTullio (John DeTulio)

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DeTullio/DeTulio, 1930 Census

John DeTullio first came to New Haven, CT. in 1906, and continued to live in the “Little Italy” area at addresses of 2 Olive St., and 5, 15, 42, and 45 Warren St. He worked in various jobs, with the first one found working for Star Line Co. (N.H.S.C.) as a dock hand at Belle Dock (record found on the 1918 WWI Registration Card). Later he found work at a local New Haven lumber company… DeForest & Hotchkiss at 115 Water St. John seemed to always work near his home as he didn’t drive.

1917 CT Military Census

In the 1917 military census, John was listed as married, living at 5 Warren St., could not drive, was not a citizen, and had never served in the military; his occupation was listed as a stableman.

The 1930 Census, shows that John and wife, Julia (Giulia) were living at 2 Olive Street, with their nine children, Antoinette, Carmela, Rosa, Michael, Nicholas, Maria, Andrew, Lucy, and Josephine; the children’s ages varied from 2 months to 19 years of age. At this time they rented, paying $21 dollars a month. Neither John or Julia were listed as able to read and write, but all children of school age were listed as able to. Their language spoken was Italian… and from accounts, I’ve heard it was always their dominant language used in their home. Several of their grandchildren that did know their grandparents, told me how they never had much communication with their grandparents as they didn’t speak Italian. The one odd question on this census to me was “did they own a radio?”… it was noted that “yes” they did.

By the time the 1940 Census was taken, the family had moved from 2 Olive St. to 42 Warren St., which was just around the corner… still remaining in the Italian area of New Haven. The family rented there at $16 dollars a month. I was told that he often moved the family to less expensive rents through the years, and on Warren St., much family lived there; as far as I’ve found he never bought, only rented. By 1951, Julia, widow of John DeTulio, was living at 55 Carlisle St. in New Haven with son Nicholas. (I’m not sure if she rented or owned)

DeTullio / DeTulio Through the years

Detulio census 1

Detulio census 2

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Giuseppe Gambino (Joseph Cambino) – May 27, 1913

Giuseppe arrived in the United States as a young man, age eighteen, on May 27, 1913. As jobs were scarce, it pushed him to quickly join the Army in WWI on July 20, 1917. That may have been his best choice, as he came out of the Army as a barber. We are not sure if he knew barbering before entering, but it was told to me by sons Johnny and Frank, that he came out of the Army as a Barber; it was told he cut hair while in the Army.

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Giuseppe Gambino (Cambino) arrived May 27, 1913

Even though I found Giuseppe’s destination listed on the ship manifest at Ellis Island for 178 Frank St. in New Haven, ct., I never found him actually listed in the city directory until 1920, after returning from WWI; he was listed as a barber at 668 Washington Ave., West Haven, with a residence now of 178 Frank St.; previously listed there was a Thomas Foormichella and Grava Angelo. He may have boarded with them and his name never given; they were boarding houses on Frank St.

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1930 Census: Joseph Cambino and family

On the 1930 census, Joseph was now married, working of his own accord at his barber shop (Buddy’s Barber Shop) on Washington Ave. in West Haven… but living at 294 York St.; he owned this home with a value of $6000, and 3 children were living at home… Catherine, Fred, and Celia. Joseph was listed as able to read and write and speak English, which was their primary language spoken in the home; all the children spoke and read English. I was told that he never spoke in Italian… only wanting his children to speak English… he wanted them to be American. Joseph also owned a radio, and from his grandson, Steve, he enjoyed listening to his radio while working in the barbershop; he kept one on a shelf in the shop that was always on. They also had one on a shelf in their kitchen at home and it’s the very one that we have today in our kitchen.

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Grandpa Joe Cambino’s radio.

Joseph Cambino came here at the youngest age (18) of my husband’s grandparents… coming here as a single man… and the only one to own a business… and buy a house at an early age. He operated his own business by age 25, never rented except for when he first arrived… and bought three houses during his lifetime. He and his wife, Minnie (Domenica) lived in a small back room in the building of the barber shop, but within a year or two, he bought his first house on York St.in West Haven, Ct. (It seems Giuseppe Cambino was the most prosperous of my husband’s immigrant grandparents.)

Gambino / Cambino Through the Years

Cambino year listing

Cambino year listing 2

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Stefano Insalaco (Stephen Insalaco) – March 13, 1909 / April 9, 1920

Stephen Insalaco entered the United States more than once as a single man, but it wasn’t until 1920 did he return as a married man with his family, daughter Louise, and son Anthony. It’s told he was ordered to serve in the Italian army before being allowed to leave with his family.

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Insalaco, 1930 Census

Stefano first came in 1909 with his brother, Gaetano… both listing their destination as N.Y., with an address of 3 Monroe St.  It was told to me that he didn’t remain long in the United States before returning to Italy. He returned soon to Italy, but it was also said that he went to Argentina to work on laying train tracks; I was never able to find anything on those trips. But I do know that he returned to Italy, and remained there to serve in their Army… by their demands. Before returning with his family, he once again came to live with cousins in Willimantic and worked in the Willimantic Thread mills.

By 1920, he returned, for the final time, to the United States… bringing his wife, Giacinta, and two children, Louise, age 2 and Anthony, age 2 months. Their destination was to cousins in Willimantic, CT., where work was promised in the Willimantic Thread Mill as a weaver; he had worked there on a previous trip.

The 1930 Census finds Stephen and Giacinta have moved their family to Shelton, Ct. where’s he has found work at Bloomenthols, also a textile mill. They rented for $15 dollars monthly at 131 Oak. St… both were listed as able to read and write… and six children were living at home; no radio was owned.

They made a few moves during the 1940’s but was found at 346 Coram Ave. in 1940. His occupation had remained as a weaver, but now renting at a price of $18 dollars a month. It was noted that he did not work at all in 1939 and their other income was “zero;” with 9 children at home, not sure how he supported them all. It was told to me that at one time, Giancinta took in laundry and later worked at a local shirt factory folding shirts. I’m sure there was some income coming in as my father-in-law always talked about how he worked at a local grocery store delivering groceries from age 8, to help support the family. After leaving Coram Avenue, they bought their first house on Kneen Street.

Insalaco Through the Years

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Only two out of my husband’s three grandparents who immigrated here bought houses. It seems the one (Joseph Cambino) who came here at the youngest age of 18, and single… worked himself up the ladder at a quicker pace. Was it because he acquired an occupation of a barber in the Army? However it happened, he worked for himself, quickly owning his own business.

If I hadn’t already gathered information on his grandparents, I would have discovered much information through the census… such as year of immigration, marital status, where immigrated from, residences, children, age at marriage, and property owned.

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Week 1 (Jan 1-7): Start

Week 2 (Jan 8-14): Favorite Photo

Week 3 (Jan 15-21): Longevity

Week 4 (Jan 22-28): Invite to Dinner

Week 5 (Jan 29-Feb 4): In the Census

2018: Week 4 ~ 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: Invite to Dinner

2018: Week 4 ~ 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks

Invite to Dinner

I’m looking forward to starting another year-long of 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks with Amy Johnson Crow.  If you’ve never joined into this type of a weekly writing blog, check out her 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks site for more information. I first joined in 2014, opening my first blog and proud to say… I completed all 52 weeks on time! My 2014: 52 Week Ancestor Challenge can be found on the previous link.

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Uncle Johnny (Cambino) carving the Thanksgiving turkey!

While pondering this 4th week prompt of “invite to dinner“… nothing was jumping out at me! So what gave me my idea… a package of saved notes and scribbled stories I’d saved… and almost threw out in cleaning. Even though I’d written stories from those papers… I hadn’t found the courage yet to toss! As I sat down to look through the package, once more, before trashing, it wasn’t long into my “looking”…. when those notes talked to me and gave me my “invite to dinner” story. Things “Do” talk to you… take the time to listen!

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The notes and scribbles

My “dinner invitation” has been extended to all who in our Cambino/DeTulio/Insalaco family, who told me their stories… and this week, those scribbled notes of their stories are what I’m sharing with you around my table. They told them to me, now they are dining at my table, to tell them to you!

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Dinner is served!

I’d like to first introduce my mother-in-law, Cecelia (Cambino) Insalaco… why is she first to tell her story at the table? Well, all who knew Celia… knows, that if she’s not first to tell her stories, then we’ll hear later how someone took her seat at the table and how she should have been first! That was always her words, especially in a card game!

Celia: “When I was small I remember only having kerosene lamps for light at the farm – there was no electricity there when we were young. Mama often took our clothes to wash at Daddy’s barber shop on Washington Avenue, because there, he had electricity.”

“During the Flood of 1938, my father (Joseph Cambino), closed his barber shop early that day to pick me up at school… I was only ten years old, but I remember him coming to bring me home… it was so rainy and windy. Many of the roads were already flooded, but he found a way to get us home. My father and I were a lot alike… I could always talk to him.”

“I have many memories of listening to the radio with my mother and sisters – we all listened to the 15-minute soap serial “As The World Turns; it was Mama’s favorite show, and later when it came on TV, she continued watching for years.”

“My father had an older car with a rumble seat, where I loved to ride when he took us to Savin Rock. He often took us on Sunday afternoons to get ice cream and Mama would sit in the car listening to the laugh of the “laughing lady” at the Death Valley funhouse. I remember always crying whenever he made me ride the “flying horses” on the carousel. Why I was afraid, I don’t know, but I’d cry whenever they made me climb up on those painted horses that went up and down. I wonder where they all are today, probably worth a lot of money now.”

“When I first married in 1947, we lived in a cold-water flat on Water St. in New Haven; it was a small apartment. I remember hearing the fish, ice and rag man making their calls as they came around to the apartments. You knew they were coming when you heard their words in various Italian dialects sing out as they walked through the neighborhoods.”

put and take game

After every holiday meal, Grandma Minnie brought out the “put and take” dice for a family game! I”m sure the dice are still rolling around their table!

One of the most colorful characters at my table today is Uncle Johnny Cambino… and he’s never without stories!

Johnny: “I remember everything that happened to me when I was young! I was about four or five when I fell into the spring well near our farm. I don’t know what I was trying to get, but I leaned over… and fell in. I was half under the water with just the ‘tips’ of my hands hanging on the edge when Mama found me. How she knew where I was, I’ll never know, except just chalking it up to a mother’s instinct. But suddenly she had missed me around the house and ran all the way down to the spring to see my fingers hanging over the edge. They told me later how she jumped in to rescue me, and then they had to help pull her out. After she got me back to the house, my grandmother held me upside down so all the water I had swallowed, would drain out. Mama told me later that she had thought about the spring when I was missing because I always went with her to fill the water pails.”

“I always liked water – and I loved to swim at Lake Phipps. I’d often climb a tree near the edge of the bank, probably up about 50-75 feet, and dive right into the water. I wasn’t afraid of anything! One time the limb bounced me too close to the edge and I landed more on the bank than the water.”

“We had a tree at the farm called “The Tarzan Tree”… so named after going to the circus and watching too many Tarzan movies. Frankie and I hung a thick rope on that tree, which was right under the big rocks… we’d swing the rope out, and when it came back, we grabbed it to swing to the next tree; just like we’d seen on TV and at the circus. One day I swung out and the rope broke, and down I went on the rocks. Boy did that hurt! When I went home Mama and my grandmother used one of their home remedies on me – no one ran to the Dr. back then… and they didn’t dare tell my father either. Mama got plenty of eggs, and cracked them to separate the whites… then she took a white bed-sheet, tore it in strips and dipped them in the beaten egg whites. She wrapped the strips all around my wrists, and after drying, they were hard as a rock; an old remedy for a cast. When my father came home, he was told that the cow had kicked me; they never told him what really happened. If he knew I’d fallen from the Tarzan Tree, I would have gotten a beating,.. broken wrists or not. That was just how it was!”

“Another one of the many beatings that came my way, was the time I came home late one Friday night. I had been at Savin Rock watching the midgets race… they had finished late that night. About midnight, I heard the fire trucks and soon saw billowing smoke and fire rising up, just down the road. I walked down to see what was going on and saw that the Virginia Reel roller coaster was on fire. I knew I wasn’t going home then – I wanted to watch! It was a huge fire, with the fire burning high up into the sky. I got home about two in the morning that night, and when I walked in… the “old man” was waiting for me! I knew I’d get a beating when I got home, but I was used to them, and what a beating I got, but I didn’t care – it was worth watching that fire burn!”

“I pulled a kid once from under the ice at Eddie Voss’s pond. He fell through the ice and I just reached in and grabbed him. If I hadn’t caught hold of him the first time, I would never have found him; I don’t remember how I even happened to be there that day.

“My brother, Frank, and I always arm wrestled everyone in the neighborhood; no one ever beat us… my arms were big… everyone told me I had ‘Popeye’ arms! If you look at the old pictures of me in the race cars you can see how big they actually were. It was a lot of hard work pulling on those steering wheels.”

“Frankie and I had two pet black crows on the farm. We took them out of a nest when they were young and raised them. When they were older they lived outside, and I’d open the pantry window and yell ‘caw, caw’ – and those two birds came flying right inside. I fed them raw chopped meat – they could eat a pound of meat in no time… gobbling it right up! My bird’s name was ‘Nigal’ (Nick)… I don’t remember what Frank’s was called. One day his didn’t come home, then later mine disappeared… maybe they went off to start their own family.”

“Daddy had many chickens on the farm. The old man had to cut their beaks straight across, making them flat, because they pecked the eggs with their pointed beaks and was breaking them – he solved that. The ‘old man’ was tough! My father knew everything about farming.”

“I stopped at Flo’s Pet Shop in Milford one day and saw a spider monkey, and I thought he was the cutest thing I’d ever seen… I bought him for ‘fifty dollars.’ In the early 50’s that was a lot of money! I named him Squeaks and kept him in the garage where my racing car was kept. I had a kerosene stove in the garage that I burned in the winter to keep him warm; I spent a lot of money on heat for him. Sometimes I’d find Squeaks in the morning shivering with blue lips if the stove went out at night, so Jennie Downs made him a little coat to wear; we even took him to the race track a couple of times. As he got older, he developed rheumatism in one of his legs and would drag it along when he walked. A few years later the neighbor’s dog, a German shepherd, grabbed and killed him. I don’t remember how long I had him, but it was quite awhile.”

Aunt Catherine (Cambino-Donahue) is next at the table, and while she’s never been flamboyant like her siblings… being often the quieter one… she did tell me stories.

Catherine: “I’ll never forget when my sister, Nancy, was almost run over by Ralph Camputaro’s ice trunk. Nancy had gone to the back of the truck to get ice chips while he delivered inside. Our driveway was on a hill, and as she stood behind the truck, it began rolling. In looking out the window, I saw the truck rolling backward with Nancy holding onto the back bumper… and I started yelling that the truck was rolling over Nancy. Ralph ran out and caught the truck just in time, but that didn’t save me from getting a beating from my father when he heard… he said I should have been watching her.”

“I was just seventeen when I went to work at Winchester after graduation, but I soon walked out after they went on strike during the war. Later I went to work at the Armstrong Rubber Company. One day there were a few men washing windows outside of our building, and one of the women I worked with told them that I wanted my windows washed at home, but it wasn’t true. Later, one of the men called me, and after a few calls, he asked me for a date – his name was Jim Donahue. Jimmy had recently moved to the area from Maine and was staying with cousins when he had gotten a job as a window washer there.”

“Two years later Jimmy and I married and moved into a trailer on Beach St.; we had bought it for 800 hundred dollars on sale… paying way more than it was worth. We lived across from the beach in the only trailer park there and it’s still there today… even though they had then said we all had to sell and leave. We sold our trailer about 4 years later for 200 hundred dollars… the couch I left was worth more than the money we sold the trailer for. While living there, we had no toilet in the trailer and had to use the bathroom across the street at the beach. Jimmy later built me an outside type shower, and brought running water inside the trailer.”

“One summer, while living in the trailer park, a woman lived next door to us who was called the “elephant woman.” She was part of the freak show at Savin Rock and had skin that looked like elephant skin. I always thought it was fake because her hands looked so nice and when I mentioned that once, she said, “oh I just peel that skin off!”

I’m sure Aunt Mary (DeTulio-Pompone) is sitting next to Catherine and most likely there is a plate of creme puffs on the table; a signature dish of Aunt Mary’s.

Mary: “My sister’s, JoJo and Lucy, often ‘borrowed’ my clothes – and usually without my knowledge! I had a red dress that Lucy loved to wear – and being a little ‘larger’ than I was – it always came back split under the arms. I was so mad – and one day I just ripped it up so she couldn’t wear it anymore; I had a lot of nice clothes. Every year I bought myself a new coat… and one outfit I really loved was my yellow plaid suit and Panama hat; they were in style at the time. When I was old enough to work, I spent most of my money on clothes. I loved clothes… and often shopped at the nice stores downtown in New Haven for most of them.” (Maybe Aunt Mary wore her Panama hat to dinner)

“When we were young, my brother’s and sister’s often had singing contests on Saturday night at our house. I loved to sing and often sang at many events. As a young girl, I was an excellent swimmer too… my brother, Mikie, and I would swim at the reservoir all the time. I was never afraid to swim anywhere when I was young.”

“I worked at Brewster’s in New Haven – a shirt factory on Franklin Street. I’d get up at three in the morning to get there for my five o’clock shift, and during the war, I worked at an airplane factory… working inside a caged area giving out parts to the employees.”

The last of the Cambino brothers, Frankie, was also another great storyteller. Just recently we came across a video my son made several years ago and were treated to hearing jokes and the song he loved to sing called Smoke, Smoke, Smoke that Cigarette.

Frankie: “I built several things from Popular Mechanic magazines when I was young. Once I even made a deep-sea diving helmet… it was a helmet attached to a hot water bottle which held the air; a snorkel mask was worn under the helmet. My brother, Johnny, and I went out in the rowboat to test it. Johnny put on the helmet and tied heavy chains around his body to weigh himself down… I had a pump in the boat that I pumped up and down really fast to supply him with air. Johnny went down about 20 feet… stayed awhile and then came shooting up fast because he’d run out of air. I later went out with a friend to try it again, and he also tied the heavy chains around himself. They weighed him down so much that he almost drowned trying to get back to the surface. Another project was a robot ashtray that stood about three feet high and had two light bulbs for eyes. When you put your cigarette out in his hand, its eyes lit up. I also built a wooden donkey that held a pack of cigarettes – when you lifted the tail, a cigarette came out the back end. If only we had pictures!”

“I was at Voss’s pond one cold winter afternoon when one of the boys fell through the ice… I quickly reached down with my hand… he grabbed on and I pulled him up. I should have gotten a medal for that, but no one ever said anything.” (When Frankie told us this, we laughed as he and Johnny both had the same “remembrance”… so who really was the hero… or did they both save someone different?)

“My father was a barber in the Army… maybe even trained there, as when he came out of service, he was already a barber; it wasn’t long afterward when he opened a barbershop. He always wanted me to become a barber, but when I discovered that I’d have to go to Hartford every day to school, I told him “no way.” After he closed his barber shop on Washington Avenue, I wanted the barber pole he had on the front of the store, but somebody stole it before I went there.”

“We all gambled in the family, but not my father. One day I asked him why he didn’t gamble and he said, “there was a statue on the green in the town I lived in, in Italy. The statue of the man wore just a barrel and there was a sign that read “Look at me now – I always won!” He told me and Johnny that… and that’s why he never gambled!”

“I remember going to Bridgeport once with Georgie Greco for some gambling. We went to this place with a heavy door. He knocked on the door – a little window opened on the door, and Georgie gave a code that allowed us to enter. You could throw the bones (dice) there and gamble with cards, but while sitting at a table, the cops came. They had a battering ram that busted through that large heavy door we had entered through. Before they’d got inside, the dice was flushed down the toilet and gambling items were hid above the drop ceiling; they told everyone to say that we were playing pinochle. After the cops swarmed in they called us in the office one by one. I told them I was just playing a game of pinochle with friends. They made me empty my pickets – I had eighty dollars on me; they took all my money. Later they called the paddy wagon and hauled us all in. The bail bondsmen came the next morning and as he was paying our bail, he said to us on the side – “big game on tonight!”

“After I got home the next morning, the old man asked why I didn’t come home last night. I just told him I had been out with the guys. It didn’t matter that I wasn’t a young boy anymore, he would have beat me if he’d known. I remember one beating he gave me with a doubled-up wire coat hanger. I scrambled up a tree to get away from him.”

“I wish I had pictures of all the things I’ve built through my life like you (Jeanne), you take pictures of everything. I also built a beauty of a speedboat once – and almost died in it while out near the breakers. There was a young boy with me and it took all my might to get us back in as the boat bounced against the waves while taking on water. I really thought I was going to die that day.”

“When I went into the Army I put down construction as what I wanted to do. Eventually, they sent me to school and I was given a diploma from the Army Engineer Core. Before I shipped out, we waited in boot camp daily to hear our names called. Every day they called names and shipped out guys. There was a war going on when I went in, but before I went to Korea, the war ended. Going to the front lines with a gun in my hand was not where I had really wanted to be. I remember walking down to the airport on base to watch the older bubble-top helicopters take off and land – and I so wanted to be able to fly one of them. Finally, my name was called and I left for Korea.”

“I soon became the assistant company carpenter while in Korea; even building a water tower there. After the company carpenter left, I then became the head carpenter. I built the platoon leader a set of chairs with bent wood – they were beautiful! A commander came by one day and when he saw them he asked me to build him a set. I had a jacket full of medals by the time I left for home. I was a perfect marksman there; I had always wanted to be a sniper while in the Army.”

One of my favorite storytellers who always had my ear was my father-in-law Steve Insalaco. I spent many hours listening to him tell me his stories… of his childhood, school, and serving in the Army Air-Core. I never tired of listening… often wishing I could have had those conversations with my own father.

Steve: “When I was about eight years old, and in the 3rd grade, I began working for the local family-owned Bogen’s Grocery Store – and I continued to work there until I was around seventeen. The store was very convenient to our house… located just next door. I stocked shelves and delivered groceries to many families in the area, making deliveries by foot or bicycle; later I used my car for deliveries. Most families tipped me five to fifteen cents for the delivery of their groceries. I often made about thirty cents a day and around $3.00 dollars a week in tips.”

“I also rode my bicycle up Rt. 34 to Armor Meats (now Deerfield Meats) to pick up meat orders for the grocery store. At that time, Rt. 34 was only a one-sided road; both lanes were on one side, not separated like today. There were trolley tracks on the other side, which ran from Derby to New Haven. About 1940, they removed the tracks and built two lanes; now Rt. 34 has two lanes on each side.”

“I never graduated from high school because I was offered a full-time job around 1937 at the Sanford & Shelton Tack Co. on Canal St. – they made nails. Full-time jobs were hard to come by, and if you were lucky enough to find one, no matter what type of job it was, it usually meant having to quit school to take it.”

“My family lived in several apartments in Shelton before buying their first house at 107 Kneen St. in 1942. While living there, my father was laid off from Bloomenthol’s. He began raising chickens and growing vegetables to sell as a source of income to feed the family. My mother, Giacinta, went to work to help supplement the family income. She found work at a shirt factory in Derby, where she ironed and packaged shirts… walking three miles back and forth to work every day.”

“I enlisted in the Army-Air Force on July 21, 1942, in Hartford, CT., and left on August 21, 1942, for boot camp at Fort Meyers, Tampa, Florida. The one thing I never forgot was my TI (Training Instructor) at boot camp and how he resembled the actor, Lee Marvin. When I first saw Lee Marvin on stage after I came home, I thought that he might have been my TI from boot camp… in remembering his voice and mannerisms; they were the same as the TI.” (Lee Marvin did not serve in the Army Air-Corp – he served in the Marines.)

I’m sure there are many other family members gathered around this table listening to their stories and telling more… what conversations we are missing out on! And whoever knew them, you know they’re still fussing and fighting over stories… as to who “really” said what!

I hope you have enjoyed my “invite to dinner”… and because of it… they have now been able to tell you “their” stories… told to me, many years ago.

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Week 1 (Jan 1-7): Start

Week 2 (Jan 8-14): Favorite Photo

Week 3 (Jan 15-21): Longevity

Week 4 (Jan 22-28): Invite to Dinner

Week 5 (Jan 29-Feb 4): In the Census

2018: Week 3 ~ 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: Longevity

2018: Week 3 ~ 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks:

Longevity

I’m looking forward to starting another year-long of 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks with Amy Johnson Crow.  If you’ve never joined into this type of a weekly writing blog, check out her 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks site for more information. I first joined in 2014, opening my first blog and proud to say… I completed all 52 weeks on time! My 2014: 52 Week Ancestor Challenge can be found on the previous link.

Longevity… a touchy and difficult topic this week! What do I write?

What’s the Secret?

City vs Country living?

Factory worker vs Farmer?

Home-grown food vs Supermarket bought?

So what is the secret to a long life… Longevity? Everyone has their own thoughts on this… is it the way we eat, where we work, or where we live? Both our ancestors, for the most part, grew their own food but lived in several different areas. Probably more of mine lived in the country as farmers… while my husband’s ancestors lived more within the city. My grandfather, Edgar T. McKinley once went to a Bryan family reunion with my parents, in the Georgia Blue Ridge mountains… when they arrived, the first thing Granddaddy McKinley asked of the men, “where are your cemeteries?” He was quickly told, “we don’t need them.” It seems that they lived long lives in the mountains! My mother told me that he constantly remarked on the trip there how he hadn’t seen any cemeteries, and it puzzled him.

Longevity is defined as “long life”… and comes from the Latin word “longaevitas”, with the word “longus” meaning long and “aevum” meaning age. If you live longer than the average person… you are said to have longevity… and we all strive to reach those long ages!

Pedigree chart of Steve Insalaco

Steve Pedigree chart

My husbands pedigree “direct line” showing the ages at death… no one lived past age 87 for women and 79 for men. As I don’t have ages of death going back any further, I have no comparisons for those living in Italy.

Pedigree chart of Jeanne Bryan Insalaco

pedigree chart me

My chart shows a high age of 80 for the women in my line and 86 for the men; ironically they are both my father’s parents! If I took this chart back further, my highest age for a woman would still be 80 as a direct descendant and age 99 for a direct male… my great-great-great grandfather, Berrian Clark Bryan. (B.C. Bryan not showing on chart) Directly in my lines also is a 2nd cousin, 2x removed, Ila Stargel Sewell Jones who lived to the age of 114. At the time of her death last year (2017), she was the oldest woman living in Georgia and the second longest living woman in the entire United States. I had the privilege of meeting her and enjoying much correspondence with her over the years.

Family sibling charts of DeTulio and Cambino

                          DeTulio Siblings                        Cambino Siblings

Even though Giovanni (DeTulio) only lived to age 67 and Julia to age 72, it seems, for the most part, their children lived a much longer life. Daughters, Mary, lived the longest in this family to age 93, and sister Carmela (Carmel) lived to age 90. The younger sisters lived until their late 80’s except for sister Lucia (Lucy), who died at age 76. The only brother who lived until in their 80’s was Nicholas (85-Nicky) while the youngest to die was their brother Andrew at age 56. From knowing them all, I believe the one thing they had in common was that they remained of a sound mind. Steve’s grandmother, Minnie, remained very sharp until the end… she never forgot anyone’s phone number or ingredients in a recipe.

In the Cambino family, Giuseppe lived to age 72, while Minnie (Domenica) lived until age 86; again, the wife outlived her husband, which unfortunately has been the case in most of the families. The siblings in this family show the oldest sister (Catherine) living to age 90, while the oldest brother (Freddie) only lived to age 60. What factored in the difference of longevity here… lifestyle? work? If you look at male vs female in ages of death… all three brothers died before any of the sisters.

If we all knew as a child or young adult… as to what we know later in life, we wouldn’t rush to grow up quite so fast. Think back to how you couldn’t wait for summer vacations in school…. learn to drive… get your license… graduate from high school… get married… have a family… have children… hurrying them to crawl, walk, talk… and soon they are married… the grandchildren come… you’re getting older and soon called grandma/grandpa…your life is becoming shorter and shorter now. So what does this mean? Stop rushing life… enjoy your children, don’t rush them to walk and talk so soon…  take time to enjoy life… it ends too quickly!

Live for Today, Tomorrow isn’t promised to any of us!

Don’t rush Life!

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Week 1 (Jan 1-7): Start

Week 2 (Jan 8-14): Favorite Photo

Week 3 (Jan 15-21): Longevity

Week 4 (Jan 22-28): Invite to Dinner

Week 5 (Jan 29-Feb 4): In the Census

2018: Week 2 ~ 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: Favorite Photo

2018: Week 2 ~ 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks: Favorite Photo

Cambino Word Art

I’m looking forward to starting another year-long of 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks with Amy Johnson Crow.  If you’ve never joined into this type of a weekly writing blog, check out her 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks site for more information. I first joined in 2014, opening my first blog and proud to say… I completed all 52 weeks on time! My 2014: 52 Week Ancestor Challenge can be found on the previous link.

Cambino Family photo

L. to R. back row: Catherine, Freddie, Cecelia, Johnny, Frankie, and Nancy. Front Row: Minnie (Domenica), Antonette “Dolly” (baby) in Minnie’s lap and Joe (Giuseppe/Joseph). I’m dating this photograph in the late summer of 1946. Daughter, Nancy, was twelve when this photo was taken and says it was taken in front of her father’s grapevine arbor at the farm. It was his favorite place in the yard… a table there for summer dinners, a place where Joe enjoyed his pastime of whittling, and often where several of the siblings played cards… if their father wasn’t home!

Choosing a favorite family photograph, much less one from a biological family not my own, is hard… but it was this photograph that I was drawn to when I married Steve! It was a photograph of his large family… a family who had the “typical” sibling spat, but still remained there for each other… a family that remained close… having daily contact with each other.  A family I was always jealous of…  I am an only child, but now I had a family.

How did this family photograph come to be taken… well, at this point in time it’s not remembered, or known… but they were all gathered for it! Giuseppe’s (Joseph) grandson Steve (Insalaco) says, “my grandfather knew many people as a barber… he never went to any races at West Haven Speedway where his son Johnny raced every weekend… but he knew who won every week… a barber always knew the latest news!” Most of the family men and boys went there for haircuts, so whether he went or not, he was told what happened at the racetrack as well as the family news. Several of my teachers also went to his barber shop for haircuts, so I had to be on my best behavior, for the most part in school… or he’d know! It might have been one of grandpa’s customers who came to the farm to take this family photograph. Possibly it was even the photographer, Conroy Taylor, who worked for the local newspaper (New Haven Register). Conroy was friends with Johnny, photographing the Speedway races weekly and even Johnny’s wedding.” But whoever came that day to take this family photograph… Thank You! Photographs such as this preserve history… preserving family at a specific time in their lives. (Conroy Taylor was also Steve’s Boy Scout Troup No.716 Master)

I can only imagine how the photo shoot went that afternoon under Joe’s grapevine arbor… and I’m sure a few words were voiced, out loud, as son Johnny seemed to have rocked the boat! Johnny was the strong-willed son, and if you study the photograph, you’ll notice that he was the only one who didn’t comply with his father’s request to dress in their Sunday’s finest! I’m told by daughter, Nancy, that it caused quite a ruckus that afternoon when Johnny refused to dress in a tie and jacket, but as you can see in the photo… someone gave in and the picture was taken… and it’s the only family photo of them all together in one sitting… from the youngest, (Antonette), to the oldest of Catherine.

For the most part, everyone looked happy, finally… on this day and we are very lucky to have this photograph documenting that late summer 1946 afternoon under Giuseppe’s (Joe’s)  grapevine arbor!

As all the children are lined up in sibling order, from oldest to the youngest sitting on the mother’s lap… I’ll write on each one in order.

As I look into their faces, I see Catherine on the left smiling, now if you knew her, you’d know that she always ran from every camera, or held her hand near her mouth. Look at her, she was beautiful, but yet she persistently referred to herself as ugly and always ducked out of the camera view. She’s known to have tragically even scratched her face out of photographs with a pen… I’ve seen a few! This was a woman, whose wedding photo was displayed in the window of a local photography studio. Aunt Catherine was one of a kind, and I enjoyed spending time with her. Steve often visited her, as she was his godmother… in later years, they had great political conversations, especially during the past campaigns; they both saw eye-to-eye on politics! Catherine kept an immaculate house, with limited decorations as often told me when visiting… “all those things are dust collectors.” She’d often look around my house at parties and say, “don’t you mind dusting all these things?” At that time in my life, I didn’t mind… today at my age, yes I do mind… I understand how she felt, and now I’d rather write than dust! I could easily write a book of stories on all the things I learned about Aunt Catherine through the years… such as how she always packed the trial sizes of Lysol, Comet and a sponge in a plastic bag in daughter Diane’s suitcase to clean the hotel bathroom on band trips… and who can forget her delicious cookies she brought on Christmas Eve. She enjoyed when Steve visited after he retired… he always arrived with a plate of Anginettes or Pepperoni Bread. I’ll leave you a teaser… she lived next door to the Elephant woman of Savin Rock! (That story will be for another day) It seems Diane’s suitcase was the first one opened after all the girls checked into their rooms on those band trips… as they all wanted to know what her mom had packed! Diane reports that those “cleaning” supplies were never used for the purpose intended… but mom never asked… and Diane never told! But the “cleaning” aspect was instilled into Diane, as she now packs those very things for trips and hospital visits… just like mom! Aunt Catherine finally knows the truth now!

Brother Freddie (Frederick Joseph), is next, the oldest brother in the family; named after his grandfather, Frederico Gambino. Freddie was a good son to his mother, as any son should be. Freddie lived his own life… strong-willed but close to his siblings, especially his brothers. I’m sure he set the way, as first children usually do, and they followed alongside him in many things such as hunting and boating (they lived on the water by 1957). They competed in everything they did… it was a very competitive family.

Steve: “Freddie was a tough kid, always getting in a fight, and his brothers were always there for him. He enjoyed working with wood… also a whittler like his father. I visited him often, later in life, and always found him at the kitchen table whittling wooden spoons… of which we have a few… or building one of the many wishing wells he built; almost everyone in the family ended up with one; he was also a great cook (he was a cook in the Navy) and you’d usually walk in to find a pot of sauce simmering on the stove on Sunday mornings. Freddie was accomplished at many things, such as archery… always hitting the bullseye! Boating and fishing were favorites of his also, and after moving by the water, he spent much time on the water; buying himself a new wooden speedboat. He often fished for blue crabs and eels… bringing them to his mother to cook; she made the best-stuffed eels… I have never found anyone who could duplicate the taste of them!. He also hunted all types of animals, such as pheasants, rabbits, deer and even squirrels, which grandma would cook in sauce or make a stew. Deer hunting was an annual tradition, and he never came home with one or two tied on the front of his car.”

The next sibling in birth order is Cecelia (my mother-in-law). Celia wasn’t like any of her other siblings… they’ve all said that… she was strong-willed, doing what she wanted… when she wanted. She was loved as their sister, but there was often conflict… but in the end, after many fusses and fights… conflicts were resolved, as they were siblings. Being she was my mother-in-law, it’s often hard to write on her. While she didn’t quite accept me when I came into the family, we eventually worked that out and spent many days together crafting and spending family time together, especially when the grandchildren came. Unfortunately, Celia had a one-track mind toward gambling, as many in the family did, but she couldn’t control hers and it caused problems, but everyone has problems in life… and it doesn’t stop you from loving your family. My mother-in-law was a great cook and taught me all I know about “Italian” cooking…  knitting and crochet… and a few of her favorites such as Scrabble and Pinochle. I never mastered the Pinochle card game, it just didn’t grab me, but I played scrabble with her, not winning often… she had many years of playing on me. The large, huge Dictionary always sat on the side of the table and if the word was in there… either top or bottom of the page… it was a word!

Brother Johnny, the one who caused the ruckus wearing no tie is next. Of all the siblings standing there, Johnny was the most colorful one in the family! I can only imagine all the trouble that erupted throughout the family as he grew up… and don’t tell me you’re (family) not laughing… in thinking of all he’s done and said! When I came into this family, I became close to Johnny and his wife Maggie… they were easy to talk to and Johnny was entertaining! I could listen to Johnny tell stories all day… and those stories never stopped… he enjoyed telling them! I often spent time with him and Maggie and even went with him to the car races at Riverside, MA. He raced at Savin Rock Speedway in his early years and was still racing when I met him. I remember riding with him on the purple (school) bus to Riverside, with the race car riding inside the bus; he’d boldly think nothing of walking to the back of the bus and cranking up the car… imagine how loud that car was… inside the bus! On one of my first times of riding with Johnny, he told me… “don’t worry, you’re as safe as a baby in a cradle, I can stop on a dime.” As a young girl of 19, far away from home… I wasn’t so sure of that as he was, but what I did know… I enjoyed being around him!

One of the things my husband and I laugh over now is a story that Johnny first told us of ice skating at Voss Pond one day when one of the boys fell through the ice, and in Johnny’s words… “miraculously I stuck my hand through the hole and the boy reached up to grab my hand and I pulled him out.” Now if you know Johnny, you can hear him telling this story in his descriptive way and voice. Years later, brother Frankie told us this very same story, but it was “he” who saved that boy… in the same way! Could there possibly have been two boys, and they each actually saved the same boy? We’ve always laughed over this story, at the fabrication of how each one of them was the same hero! It never mattered to us, whether it was real or not… they each told a great story and I’d give anything to go back in time… to once again hear that story!

Brother Frankie, the youngest of the three, stands next to big brother Johnny. They were very close and very competitive with each other in “everything” they did; the Cambino family was a very competitive family and remained close through the years. He was the first of my husband’s uncles I met when I came to CT., and he often took me for rides on his motorcycle to show me all around the area. I was a little nervous when he first drove me up to the top of West Rock to see Long Island Sound and all of New Haven; it was an awesome site, but the fast ride up was pretty scary. Frankie’s exceptional qualities were as a carpenter… he could build anything. He often told me stories of when he was in the Army… he was even the main carpenter in his unit, even building a table and chairs for the commander. If anyone remembers Bob Rossi, the painter on TV… then you know that’s how Frankie began painting. He’d set up his easel (he built) and paint along with Bob… and became quite proficient in painting. (I’ll add photos later). Frankie was also an accomplished musician, as well as brother Johnny; both played by ear, there was never any lessons. Frankie also played the organ, piano, guitar, and harmonica. Frankie always livened up Christmas Eve when he began playing the organ.

Sister, Nancy, is on the end of the back row of siblings in this family, age twelve, and the only one who remembers this day. I’ve always seen Nancy as the strongest of the family, taking charge of caring for her parents, making decisions and always being the one, other than their mother, to be called at holidays for a recipe. Everyone cared for their parents in different ways, but there is always one, in every family, who takes the lead. I can still hear my mother-in-law calling Nancy to ask… what amounts of this and that were needed for the Easter pies. That was what encouraged me to create the family cookbook, “Italian Famiglio Recipes.” Even today, Nancy is still a strong woman, working in her flower gardens, maintaining a vegetable garden and cooking the Sunday family dinner. Nancy and husband Gene hosted an annual Fourth of July picnic for many years… lots of work! Those picnics were so much fun… all the siblings came with their families and as the families grew, even more, were added. The Bocci games there intrigued me when I first went, and I wanted to play… but was quickly told… “it’s only for the men.” That didn’t sit well with me. LOL!  Eventually, the men relented and the women began playing, but having their own game, not with them. Most of the women brought their crafts or crocheting that day, so we were content usually, to not play Bocci unless we wanted to; we enjoyed showing off what they were working on… those were fun days!

Baby, Antonette (Dolly), completes this family photograph along with her parents Domenica (Minnie) DeTulio and Giuseppe (Joseph) Cambino. When I questioned her nickname, I was told, “I didn’t play with dolls, so my brothers called me Dolly.” She is close in age to my husband and they grew up more like brother and sister through the years… and when I came into this family… we spent much time together. Summers were spent sitting by the pool at my mother-in-laws, crocheting, crafting, and sunbathing! I can’t even remember all the crafts we’ve done through the years… there were so many! I never had anyone to play board games when I grew up, but I have fond memories of playing Clue and Careers for hours on end with Dolly… even our husbands played. What fun we had on Saturday afternoons… trying to outwit each other either in solving the mystery of whether it was Colonel Mustard, Professor Plum, Miss Scarlet, Mrs. White, Mr. Green or Mrs. Peacock.. as to who killed Mr. Boddy! Just thinking of the Clue characters is so making me want to play again… I might need to find an online game… Dolly, are you ready for a rematch? Careers was another favorite… each of us trying to trick the other as to our formula strategy… it was a strategic game, gathering points to win. When OTB (Off Track Betting) came to West Haven… our Saturday mornings changed to discussing the horse races and who’d win that afternoon… often arguing our different views! It was fun later watching the race to see who picked out the winners!

Grandma Minnies birthday partyFIX

Grandma Minnie celebrating her 85th birthday party… and there is that family photo given to her by her children.

The mother, Domenica “Minnie” (DeTulio) Cambino… a caring mother holding baby Antonette (Dolly). I always loved her given name… which means Sunday. I first assumed she was possibly born on that day, but later learned she was most likely named after her paternal grandmother, Domenica DeCuore. Her nickname “Minnie” became the more Americanized version; I never heard anyone call her by any name, other than Minnie! Her children called her Mama… I called her Grandma along with her many grandchildren, and spent many hours at her house… and enjoyed going there. She taught me many cooking skills and dishes. I first learned about the famous zucchini yellow flowers from the summer squash plants. She’d take me into the garden with a paper bag in hand… to gather the flowers. When I questioned the bag, grandma said, “always put the flowers in a bag before bringing them into the house… listen closely for the buzzing. You don’t want to open the bag in the kitchen and have a bee fly out.” I never forgot that! And those fried yellow blossoms were always the best at Grandma’s! She was a great cook, and never thought twice about just cooking a small amount of any dish for you. When I was pregnant with Stephen, she’d prod me into tasting a little bit of everything, telling me, “you must taste everything so the baby will like it.” Well, I guess that worked, as Stephen loves Broccoli Rabe, and she pushed that on me saying it tasted like my southern turnip greens. Personally, I never saw the comparison to the two, other than they both were green! I never argued the taste tests, I ate whatever she gave me. When I began my cookbook, my first stop was at her kitchen table to watch, measure and write her recipes. She had no recipes written, as most cooks didn’t back then… like my own mother and grandmother… they knew how to cook by the feel and taste. On that one Easter week, as she sat at the table making her pies, I measured her ingredients to create a recipe; and it worked, as my pies come out good every time. If only I’d thought to have brought a camera!

My first experience of eating pizza there was interesting… I was in awe as she tore off the top of the box, tearing it in four pieces… and soon we all had paper plates. Often today I’ll tell hubby, “just use grandma Minnie’s paper plates.” I’ll close with one funny story after her passing… we all learned that Grandma actually smoked! We laughed about it, as almost none of us knew, except for maybe Dolly and Frankie, who lived there at the time. Frankie told us how he’d purposely leave his pack of cigarettes on the kitchen table… and as she always kept a kitchen cloth on the table, she’d pull a few out to hide under that cloth until she could hide them later. Dolly remembers, “I’d come home at lunch sometimes, and see smoke coming out the bathroom window… no one was home but Mama, so I assumed it was her.” It’s a funny remembrance! Even today… I can still picture her sitting in her “spot” at the kitchen table, with that cloth laying right there.

The father, Giuseppe (Joseph) Cambino (Gambino) sits alongside Minnie… looking the part of the prestigious proud father of 7 children on this day. While I did get to meet him in 1971 when I married Steve, he wasn’t the strong fiery man he once was… of whom I heard many stories on. He was now a sweet quiet man, and on our first meeting, he took me for a walk to see the roses he enjoyed growing. Once he gave up growing a garden, he turned to flowers. His early photos, like the tin photo of him at age 18, always showed him as a strong confident man, and quite handsome. This family photo has him sitting there, still very confident, with movie star quality… love the pocket watch tucked in his vest pocket. He reminds me of George Burns in this photograph… probably because of the cigar in hand… he seemed to hold it just as George did. Joseph always provided for his family with clothing, food, and shelter. It might not have been the best, but he provided, as what a good father does for his family… they provide the best to their ability. Times were tough, money was hard to come by, and he worked long hours at the barber shop… but he provided for all 7 children and ensured that they all received an education. My husband has many memories of going to Grandpa Joe’s barber shop for haircuts… I’ll tell those later along with the Bocci stories.

Italian naming patterns:

  • The first male is named after his paternal grandfather.
  • The second male is named after his maternal grandfather.
  • The first female is named after her paternal grandmother.
  • The second female is named after her maternal grandmother.

I can see the patterns in many of my husband’s lines, but it was not always followed as the families Americanized more.

One of the stories I’d hoped to find but never did is a photograph of when Giuseppe was young and courting Minnie. He often picked her up from work at Strouse Adler on his motorcycle with the sidecar! As New Haven had a large Indian Motorcycle dealership, I often wondered if that bike might have possibly been an Indian. (Strouse Adler was famous for their “Smoothie” foundation garments.)

So the next time you look through your family photographs… remember… there is much more to the photograph of the people you’re looking at… they all have a story! I hope you have enjoyed mine as much as I’ve enjoyed telling them.

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Week 1 (Jan 1-7): Start

Week 2 (Jan 8-14): Favorite Photo

Week 3 (Jan 15-21): Longevity

Week 4 (Jan 22-28): Invite to Dinner

Week 5 (Jan 29-Feb 4): In the Census